Sunday, September 29, 2013

Bored to Tears

On September 25, 2013 at 7:10am, I realized I was bored with the internet and my mobile devices.  Together they have contributed to my font of trivial knowledge.  But it has been a very long time since I delved deeply enough into a topic to fully understand it, or to contribute to it with original ideas.  And perhaps most important, I have been losing my sense of nuance.  All discourse seems to fall on one side or the other.  Intellectually I have been anything but mindful.  In fact, the constant barrage of information, updates, and check-ins, and the 24-hour availability of me and everyone I know, has turned me into a cognitive fight or flight machine.

It’s the loss of nuance in me and those around me, as well as in nearly every issue I hear discussed in the media, that bothers me most.  Very few things are as black and white as they are when couched in the language of soundbites and 140 character blasts to followers.  Following links from the people we follow can actually exacerbate the limiting of intellectual diversity.  So much of what we present ourselves with is self-screened to reinforce, not challenge, our close-held views.  Not to mention the damage done by oversimplification in this process.   The only way around this is to purposefully counter our assumptions.  To seek out points of view we disagree with and to investigate them fully, with an open mind.

And so it is with mindfulness.  Great claims are being made for its efficacy, and I am living proof that a dedicated meditation practice combined with a mindful approach to living can even help defeat disease.  But surely not in all of the people all of the time.   Yet the claims for the benefits of mindfulness become more extravagant as the presentation of meditation techniques becomes oversimplified.  Can sitting with your focus on the breath for 20 minutes each day really lead you to all of the benefits of mindfulness presented every day on the Huffington Post’s Healthy Living Page?  I, a beneficiary of mindfulness and a teacher of meditation, sincerely doubt it.

I am confident, though, that a mindfulness practice can help spark the noticing of nuance.  Even in its definition – the nonjudgmental awareness of the present moment – mindfulness begs us to set down our preconceptions and our delusions and just experience what is happening.  Right here, right now.  Very few things that we face in this world are simple.  The vast universe of self-help offers seemingly effortless solutions to our greatest challenges.  It can’t all be true.  Mindfulness gives us the opportunity to set aside our beliefs, and our disbelief, and take in the diversity presented to us.  All without judgment.  Yes, judgment is necessary for the decisions we must eventually make.  But imagine the benefit to us and those around us of our being fully informed, open-minded, and nuanced in our approach to the decisions we must make in life.

I understand the irony of me on a blog, with entries of about 600 words each, lamenting the mind-numbing effects of information technology.  If everyone takes a long period of digital detox my latest post may never be read.  Incredible resources full of depth and diversity are available all over the internet for free.  But it takes some effort to find them.  It’s hard.  Meditation is the same.  A simple exercise in stress management can present us with some uncomfortable emotions and memories.   Nonjudgmental awareness of the present moment may offer up a present that is not so good.  But if we stick with the hard work, in thought as well as in letting go of thoughts, I believe we will each benefit.  The more we explore, the more we challenge ourselves, the more nuance we add to our lives, the better off we all will be.


  1. I am a very stressed out individual mostly due to recent health issues. I am very new to meditation and would like your input on where should I start? What would be the easiest way for me to meditate now? I have some visualization c.d.;s, should I start with those?

    1. Katrina - I would look for a group that meets near you and go there for instruction and support. You can search for meditation groups on, or look to local Buddhist centers. I'm no Buddhist, but I did receive my initial instruction at a Zen center and found that very helpful.

      I wouldn't recommend the visualization CDs. In mindfulness we seek to fully experience the present moment without judgment. That includes unpleasant, even painful feelings. We then discover that much of the pain is found in thoughts about our suffering, and we can release those thoughts and begin to heal. Visualization takes you away from your present experience and makes this healing difficult. Try a guided body scan instead. Many are available on YouTube, and Jon Kabat Zin has great ones on CD.

      Let me know how it goes as you try meditating and how I can help you further.

    2. Hello, i have just discovered your blog and really like what you are sharing. But as a therapist, I was surprised at how hard you just came down on visualization. I try to present a 'smorgasbord' of healing options to people. Visualizations, such as those developed by Belleruth Naparste, can be a very useful healing tool, and there is good research to back this up.